5 Ways To Strengthen Your Relationship Today
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Your results are a snapshot of how you and your partner are currently connecting across communication, trust, values, affection, and growth. Every couple has unique strengths to celebrate and opportunities to deepen connection.
At the Healthy Love Foundation, we believe that healthy love can be learned, practiced and strengthened. Here are five psychology-backed practices you can start using today.
“Love is an action, never simply a feeling”
1. Practice “Micro-Connections” Daily
It’s not just the big moments (anniversaries, trips) that matter — it’s the daily “micro-moments.” A quick check-in, a text that says “thinking of you,” or a 20-second hug builds emotional safety and signals “I see you, I value you.”
Try this today: Share one appreciation with your partner before bed.
2. Use the 3-to-1 Rule in Conflict
Research (Gottman Institute) shows couples who maintain a ratio of 3 positive interactions for every 1 negative interaction weather conflict better. Even during disagreement, sprinkle in warmth, a smile, humor, or validation, to soften the edges.
Try this today: The next time tension rises, pause and add one statement of affirmation (“I get why this matters to you”) before diving back into problem-solving.
3. Align on One Small Goal Together
Couples thrive when they share dreams and goals. They don’t have to be huge — even deciding to cook one new recipe together weekly builds a sense of teamwork.
Try this today: Ask your partner, “What’s one small goal we can take on this month together?”
4. Speak Each Other’s Love Language
Love is often lost in translation. If your partner values quality time but you’re showing love through gifts, the impact can be muted. Learn each other’s love language and practice it intentionally.
Try this today: Ask, “What makes you feel most loved?” Then give that freely this week.
5. Schedule “Relationship Time” (Not Just Netflix)
Healthy couples carve out intentional, tech-free time to connect. Even 30 minutes a week without distractions can deepen intimacy.
Try this today: Block a 30-minute “relationship date” in your calendar this week. Phones down, hearts open.
No matter your quiz score, you’re already investing in your relationship by taking this first step.
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